Learning Love Work 1
From Co-dependency to Mature Relating
Category: thematic workshops,
Themes: explore the emotions, free yourself from conditionings, relating,
The workshop at the moment is not in scheduled
We are not born knowing how to love. We have to learn it. All too often, our efforts to find and sustain love result in conflict, disappointment and frustration. We find ourselves repeating the same painful patterns over and over again. The problem lies in our co-dependency - in the deeply seated wounds we carry inside that lead to dependency or isolation. This process deals with the three roots of our codependence - our wounds of shame, shock and abandonment. It uncovers the source of all the conflicts and difficulties in relationship - our wounded inner child. Through guided meditations and carefully designed partner exercises, we explore this wounded child inside of us - giving space for each person in his or her own way and time - to connect with this delicate and hidden part. Exploring our inner child opens a door to deeply hidden feelings. By contacting these feelings, we become empowered and we learn how to create intimacy. This process provides specific tools for resolving conflict, for learning to set boundaries and for expressing our needs simply and clearly.The focus of the Learning Love work is to teach how to transform the way we relate to ourselves and to others. Normally, we relate to ourselves with self-judgment, fear, and insecurity. In our intimate love stories, we are often either dependent or anti-dependent, demanding or rejecting love, we often feel disappointed, frustrated, controlled, or disrespected. This way of relating is based on unhealed wounds that come from childhood traumas and they affect how we live our lives today. We call this wounded part of us, "the wounded inner child". It is a part of us that is deeply vulnerable, insecure, frightened, mistrustful, and needy. Specifically, in the Learning Love Work, we deal with the wounds of shame, shock, and abandonment, learning to understand, recognize, feel, and express them. When these wounds are not addressed they can cause us to become depressed, addicted, enter into relationships with unavailable or abusive partners, or we remain lonely and isolated. When we begin to understand and feel these deeper parts of us, we become able to relate in a more mature and healthy way. We begin to understand that love is a gift and that the other person is not responsible to take away our fears and loneliness. We become able to express our needs but also to allow the other person to have his or her own life and freedom. We learn to take the space we need for ourselves but also make a priority to devote time together for intimacy, depth, and sharing. We learn to respect and become kind and sensitive to ourselves and the other person. The Learning Love Work has a specific approach that is gentle but effective. In a relaxed and supportive environment, we integrate guided meditations, carefully designed exercises, and teachings, to help people heal their wounds and discover their natural essence, joy, and passion for life. The work is without pressure in order to give each person the trust and tranquility necessary to explore his or her inner world profoundly and lovingly.